3 Secrets & 3 mins to Purge the ish out of your Life!

If you are anything like me, I hold on to stuff “just in case”.

Or, you may hold on to stuff “because you never know”.

Because you paid for it. Because HE or SHE gave it to you. Because you don’t know if you’ll get something that nice again. Because your momma always holds on to stuff. Because someone else might need it. Because one day, when you have a car that runs well, and a Sunday off, and someone to help you, you are going to drop all of it off at the Salvation Army.

Whatever the case may be, all of these are…YUP… you guessed it…REEEEEEEEASONS. Nothing but REEEEEEASONS! And these reasons come from a place of lack.

If you really thought about it, you couldn’t possibly be fully present to all of the abundance around you if you are holding on to stuff you don’t love.. You and I both know that some of your stuff is raggedy! Yes, I said RAGGEDY! Those beat-up sneakers, those pants that don’t represent your current style or the woman you have been evolving into.

However, you wouldn’t think about getting rid of your stuff and you even get offended when someone makes a suggestion.

Well I want you to think about what it costs to hold on to this “stuff” of yours.

For example:

It’s taking up closest and dresser space that could be used to house stuff you REALLY love, not just like. It’s taking up space on your phone because you already know you are never going to call THAT person again anyway. It is taking up some of your energy space because when you see it or her or him, you start to feel heavy because you already know its time to let go. Your creativity is stifled because there is no room for anything to flow through and to you. You put off buying new things you like because you already feel too cluttered in your space so where would it go.  It’s like you’re stacking bricks on top of bricks, wondering why people don’t understand or get you.

Want to know why?

It’s all that stuff. It literally creates a maze they have to navigate to get to you. But they can’t access you so they can’t understand you. It’s exhausting for others so it must be really exhausting for you.

So, because I like you and I don’t want to leave you hanging in the weightiness of “your stuff”, below are 3 ways to purge things in less than 3 minutes so you can welcome in the abundance that is your birthright!

Okay, first step: get a timer (your phone probably has one) and for each secret below, set the timer for 3 minutes.

Secret #1: If you don’t LOVE IT, LOSE IT. 
Clean out a drawer or a portion of your closet and, yup, if you don’t LOVE IT, LOSE IT. If it’s clothes, put it in a bag and drop it off at a charity of your choice or sell it. If you do not drop it off within 7 days, THROW IT AWAY. If you don’t toss it within 7 days, you can guarantee that it is going to take a long time for you to get rid of that stuff for good!

Secret #2: Delete the Negative Nancys & Nates. 
You already know who these people are. They are the ones that every time you speak to them you feel emotionally, and sometimes physically, drained. You feel like you need a nap or a vacation. Yes, THEM. Delete them from your phone and don’t think twice about it.

Secret #3: Buy something you love and toss something you hate.
Every time you buy something you love, discard 2 things that you don’t love so that you can continue to make room for the things you love.

CALL TO ACTION:
Okay, so what are you going to do? Do it and then email me to share what you did and how ya feel!

When you are embodying self-love and self-care, you boldly give yourself permission to let go so you can hear, feel and experience the blessings that surround you everyday.

And remember….you are just one conversation and one action away from having everything you want!

In Love,
Akua Soadwa
www.LetsPursueYou.com
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The cute girl who wore a mask.

Have you ever met someone who you thought was sooooo amazing? I mean you thought he or she was the best thing since sliced bread. You always wondered – what is it about this person that makes her so fabulous? Is it her fly outfit? Her elegant and well put together hair style? Her ability to smile and have everyone in the room light up and say yes to any request she asked?

Have you ever met someone like this?

Well I definitely have, and I have definitely been this person also. However the way it looked on the outside was not actually what she thought about herself on the inside. In fact, she didn’t inspire herself the way she inspired others. She didn’t quite understand why everyone was so interested in her. She wasn’t that interested in herself.

During the course of my work I have met many women who project one thing to the outer world, but internally they are secretly dealing with their own fears and doubts about themselves.  And at some point they can’t take it anymore and they lash out at those closest to them or they even take it out on themselves with words of abuse, or they do something to physically harm themselves. As a result, they may eventually isolate themselves from others, or find themselves feeling alone.

No one should feel alone.

I say – that it is time for people to take off their masks and deal with what is really going on. So I challenge you to take off your mask today, and start dealing with what there is for you to deal with.

A true act of self-love, is loving yourself enough to tell the truth and get support in the areas where you haven’t been able to get the results you desire. 

Move in truth today.

In love,

Akua Soadwa

P.S.

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The Loser who Challenged My Insecurities

There I was, minding my own business on a beautiful and sunny day in NYC. I looked GOOD. I mean GOOOOOD child, and I felt good too. I was smiling because I was so excited that the weather finally broke and that the sun was shining.

To top this off, I was getting compliments alllll day from the young to the old, and from nearly every race. I was radiating my gratitude for life and for the sun’s ability to breathe a different kind of life to and through me. I also knew I was glowing because I was regularly cleansing from bad foods and cleansing has the ability to show the work you have been doing on the inside, to the outside world. I was on cloud 9, or better yet on cloud 100 if there is such a thing! 

Then, the loser appeared. (They always do).

I walked by a man and his friend and he said something I hadn’t heard in years – “hey, make a muscle”, and they start to laugh uncontrollably. 

Everything in me dropped.

I hadn’t felt that humiliated and insecure about my muscular physique since I was in high school. But those feelings crept up so quickly it was like they were never really healed. 

In moments like this anger typically arises for most people, and this anger has us act outside of ourselves. Regardless of how much work I have been doing, I am no exception to the rule. And to be honest, my first thought was – “f-you, eat a salad”. And I meant every word of it in that moment.

It took me a whole hour to come down from my anger and let go of my justification for why my comment was appropriate. When I finally let go of being justified, I saw something really amazing.

I saw how quickly I allow one loser’s drop of sh*t into my ocean of love, happiness and support, ruin my day and have me act outside of myself. In a matter of seconds I went back to feeling insecure and I forgot about all of the work I have been doing on myself. 

We cannot let others insecurities become our own. Regardless of how we may feel sometimes, we have done a lot of work on ourselves, so don’t let a loser steal your shine!

:) Akua Soadwa
www.LetsPursueYou.com
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