Thursday, July 11, 2013
If you are a Dove, why do you keep acting like a Chicken!?
Usually when you hear the word “dove” it is connected to peace, beauty and purity. It is love in its purest form.
But when you think of a chicken (literally and figuratively), it can be annoying, pest-like, unable to stand on its own two feet and definitely not pure or clean.
Back to you…....
Sometimes you may notice that you do some “chicken-like” stuff.
Let me explain myself.
You know that you probably shouldn’t continue messing with or sleeping with that person. You know that THAT food is going to make you wish you never ate it in the first place. You know that you shouldn’t take that job because it is in direct conflict with your values. You know you shouldn’t continue being friends with that person because s/he is too negative. You know that if you don’t get support it can get worse before it gets better.
Yet, you continue to disregard what your spirit is telling you. You act out of fear because you don’t believe things will actually turn out for you. You don’t believe that you are worthy of things working out. You don’t believe you are supported. You actually don’t believe that you are in fact a DOVE who’s wings just got a little stuck.
That’s all that happened. Your wings got stuck and you need a little support to wiggle you out.
If you truly thought you were a DOVE, you would act accordingly and trust that your wings will follow shortly after.
So, do you think that you are a DOVE, or are you a chicken willing to settle for scraps because at least you got something?
It is your choice and your choice only.
So choose with open eyes and act accordingly.
In love,
Akua Soadwa
....when you are ready to DO something about your chicken-like mojo - holla at your girl. I am here...always have been.
And remember...you are just one conversation and one action away from having everything you want!
Tuesday, July 9, 2013
When Prioritizing Goes sooooo Wrong
A few weeks ago, Let’s Pursue You was leading a Self-Love Home Invasion for a
group of 8 sister-friends.
They were “going in” as we performed self-love surgery (not
real surgery of course) and they were digging deeper and deeper until they
started to discover their real truths about self-love. They started to see that
while they had their ideal vision of how they wanted to embody and practice
self-love, what they allowed to run the show were all of their reasons,
justifications and negative chatter that talked them out of doing the things
that actually restored them, made them happy and filled them up.
Some have even stopped allowing themselves to dream because
what’s the point, and others have allowed concerns, self-doubt, money and other
reasons that you can probably relate to, get in the way of them having a life
they love.
I am clear that there are a lot of us that are walking around,
allowing “other priorities” to get in the way of us having the life that we
love. But I want you know that we DESERVE to have the life that we love. We are
WORTHY of having the life that we love.
If we truly grasped how amazing we are, we would see this. We
would honor this. We would give ourselves PERMISSION to ONLY LIVE A LIFE THAT
WE LOVE.
BACK TO YOU.
Is there something that you really want to do, or that you
really want to create, or that you really want to have, but you have allowed other
things to get in the way?
What is that thing?
Are you sick of putting it off?
Are you ready to live YOUR life?
Are you ready to shift some things?
Are you ready for something new?
Are you ready to live a life that you LOVE?
What are you waiting for?
Let me guess, only after that other thing is taken care of,
can you really do what you want to right?
OK. No worries. It’s all a choice, just remember that you have
everything to say about what you do now, what you do next and what you do
later. YOU get to prioritize your life, no one else.
With a lil’ dose of self-love, you will begin to see what I
see so clearly – that you are WORTHY of having the life you love. We all are.
So, if you were loving yourself to the fullest right now, what
would you do? What would you actually be prioritizing right now and what would
you boldly let go of?
In Love,
Akua Soadwa
P.S. Don’t think you have to do this alone. I am here. I have
always been here. Let’s talk about how I can support you! And if you participate in the "I Matter Coaching Program" before
August 2013, there is an early bird rate so DO get in action and don’t delay….you
and I both know what happens when you delay! (I’m just saying). Click here to schedule a time to speak!
Monday, July 1, 2013
I have been without a man for too dayum long!
Yeah, I am letting you into alllll of my business!
When I realized how long it had been, at first it pissed me off and then it made me sad – way more than I would care to admit, and then I felt lonely.
It has been 4 years and 7 months.
4 years and 7 months of not being able to share all of my love, energy and intimacy with a man. 4 years and 7 months of not being able to build and grow with a companion by my side. 4 years and 7 months of not having a man to come home to, to cuddle with, to share my day with.
4 years and 7 months.
When I really started admitting to myself that it had been 4 years and 7 months, rather than “about” 4 years, I was able to see things more clearly and I want to share 3 of the many lessons I learned with you.
First – Get clear on the facts and stay in reality.
I never wanted to calculate the amount of time I was actually single for because that made things too real for me. I liked living in a world of “estimates” and “approximations” rather than “reality.” But all there is, is reality. And there is no tomorrow until tomorrow comes, and then it is now – then it is reality. So if I can’t deal with reality, I can’t be in any relationship, let alone a romantic one.
Once I was clear about my reality, once I stopped resisting my reality, I was able to see various ways to address it so that I could create a new reality.
So what is something you are resisting and have been unwilling to get clear on the facts about?
Either way you look at it, at some point you are going to have to deal with reality, however the longer you wait the more you will have to lose, so why not do it when you have less to lose?
Second – We choose our reality and we have to deal with it like an adult.
I had it that the reason why I have been single is because it “just isn’t my time”, or because “I have other things that God, Universe, etc. want me to take care of.” Now don’t get me wrong, I DO BELIEVE and AFFIRM THIS. However, I was using this as my excuse so I didn’t have to take responsibility for the fact that I just haven’t been intentional about this area of my life. I haven’t prioritized a romantic relationship. All of the things that I have chosen to be intentional about has turned into something extraordinary. EXXXXXTRA ORDINARY I say!
I hadn’t chosen to be in a relationship for 4 years and 7 months.
I have recently chosen to be intentional about being in a relationship that is in direct alignment with my values and commitment. (So if you know anyone…….hollllla…I’m just saying).
Whether it be about getting on the court with regards to relationships, or with regards to something else, choose something fully rather than straddling the fence. Straddling the fence has the tendency to make you think that you don’t have to take full responsibility for how things turn out, but its quite the opposite. Whether consciously or unconsciously, you are choosing something and you have to deal with your reality, and your reality is a clear indicator of what you have chosen.
So whatever you do, just CHOOSE with a conscious mind and heart.
Third – During the course of being “without a man”, or “without” something, you have been able to be with and deal with yourself.
I took time out to actually acknowledge all of the personal work I have been able to do with myself during the course of the past 4 years and 7 months and I was actually moved to tears. I realized that we often get caught up in what we don’t have and we lose sight of all that we do have, all that we have created. I encourage you to take stock of all of the things that you have been able to create, even in the midst of being without something. Pay gratitude to your life because something has worked – you just need to be reminded of it.
These are only 3 of the MANY lessons I have learned during my 4 years and 7 months of choosing not to be in a relationship.
What lessons have you learned during your time of being without something? Do share with me below!
In love,
:) Akua Soadwa
…you are just one conversation and one action away from having everything you want.
When I realized how long it had been, at first it pissed me off and then it made me sad – way more than I would care to admit, and then I felt lonely.
It has been 4 years and 7 months.
4 years and 7 months of not being able to share all of my love, energy and intimacy with a man. 4 years and 7 months of not being able to build and grow with a companion by my side. 4 years and 7 months of not having a man to come home to, to cuddle with, to share my day with.
4 years and 7 months.
When I really started admitting to myself that it had been 4 years and 7 months, rather than “about” 4 years, I was able to see things more clearly and I want to share 3 of the many lessons I learned with you.
First – Get clear on the facts and stay in reality.
I never wanted to calculate the amount of time I was actually single for because that made things too real for me. I liked living in a world of “estimates” and “approximations” rather than “reality.” But all there is, is reality. And there is no tomorrow until tomorrow comes, and then it is now – then it is reality. So if I can’t deal with reality, I can’t be in any relationship, let alone a romantic one.
Once I was clear about my reality, once I stopped resisting my reality, I was able to see various ways to address it so that I could create a new reality.
So what is something you are resisting and have been unwilling to get clear on the facts about?
Either way you look at it, at some point you are going to have to deal with reality, however the longer you wait the more you will have to lose, so why not do it when you have less to lose?
Second – We choose our reality and we have to deal with it like an adult.
I had it that the reason why I have been single is because it “just isn’t my time”, or because “I have other things that God, Universe, etc. want me to take care of.” Now don’t get me wrong, I DO BELIEVE and AFFIRM THIS. However, I was using this as my excuse so I didn’t have to take responsibility for the fact that I just haven’t been intentional about this area of my life. I haven’t prioritized a romantic relationship. All of the things that I have chosen to be intentional about has turned into something extraordinary. EXXXXXTRA ORDINARY I say!
I hadn’t chosen to be in a relationship for 4 years and 7 months.
I have recently chosen to be intentional about being in a relationship that is in direct alignment with my values and commitment. (So if you know anyone…….hollllla…I’m just saying).
Whether it be about getting on the court with regards to relationships, or with regards to something else, choose something fully rather than straddling the fence. Straddling the fence has the tendency to make you think that you don’t have to take full responsibility for how things turn out, but its quite the opposite. Whether consciously or unconsciously, you are choosing something and you have to deal with your reality, and your reality is a clear indicator of what you have chosen.
So whatever you do, just CHOOSE with a conscious mind and heart.
Third – During the course of being “without a man”, or “without” something, you have been able to be with and deal with yourself.
I took time out to actually acknowledge all of the personal work I have been able to do with myself during the course of the past 4 years and 7 months and I was actually moved to tears. I realized that we often get caught up in what we don’t have and we lose sight of all that we do have, all that we have created. I encourage you to take stock of all of the things that you have been able to create, even in the midst of being without something. Pay gratitude to your life because something has worked – you just need to be reminded of it.
These are only 3 of the MANY lessons I have learned during my 4 years and 7 months of choosing not to be in a relationship.
What lessons have you learned during your time of being without something? Do share with me below!
In love,
:) Akua Soadwa
…you are just one conversation and one action away from having everything you want.
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